Mastering Masculinity w/ Tate Siemer
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Episode Description
Welcome to the Freedom Point Real Estate podcast! In today's episode, Jeremy and Tate Siemer dive deep into redefining masculinity, building inner alignment, and creating a life of purpose. Tate shares practical insights on boundaries, mission, and daily action that help men — and women — break free from old patterns and step into their highest potential.
Tate Siemer is a coach, podcaster, and author focused on helping men thrive. Formerly an active multifamily investor, he now hosts The Apartment Gurus Podcast and runs the Multifamily Octane Coaching Mastermind, offering one-on-one and group coaching for entrepreneurs. Tate is currently writing a book on masculinity and enjoys big-mountain skiing, mountain biking, music, and camping with his dog, Joey.
CONNECT WITH TATE SIEMER!
Website: https://glequitygroup.com/
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tate-siemer-367939160
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatesiemer/?hl=en
Phone: 801-699-4532
Email: dtsiemer@gmail.com
CONNECT WITH JEREMY DYER!
Website: https://startingpointcapital.com/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremydyer
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Book a Call! https://calendly.com/startingpointcapital/discuss-investing-with-jeremy-dyer?month=2023-12
Summary
Tip #1: Redefine Masculinity for Today’s World
“I don’t think we can go back to any of it… none of it really worked anyway to begin with. So, like what’s next? What’s moving forward?”
Tate emphasizes that both the “woke” and “hyper-masculine” extremes are toxic and unhelpful. Instead of reverting to outdated models, men should embrace a new, forward-looking vision of masculinity that balances strength with compassion. This shift invites men to create their own template rather than living out stereotypes.
Tip #2: Embrace Roles Without Needing 50/50 Balance
“Who says as a man you have to honor your femininity in all situations?… Women, families, communities, and the world need men that are willing to be men.”
Here, Tate highlights that men don’t need to force a perfect masculine-feminine split. By leaning into roles that feel natural and authentic, men can better serve their families and communities. This authenticity strengthens leadership and presence.
Tip #3: Practice Kindness, Not Niceness
“Real men are kind, not nice. I don’t think the nice guys win or do anything important really.”
Kindness implies strength and discernment, while “niceness” can often be appeasement. Tate’s distinction challenges men to protect their values and loved ones while remaining compassionate. This approach fosters respect and trust in relationships.
Tip #4: Set Boundaries to Create Safety and Peace
“Boundaries are absolutely magical… it creates inner peace because there is a line that basically says you cannot mess with me on this stuff.”
Strong boundaries are essential for self-respect, safety, and clarity. Tate illustrates how boundaries—even with loved ones like his mom—are pivotal for healthy dynamics. Knowing what you allow into your life creates stability and self-confidence.
Tip #5: Heal Past Wounds Before Pursuing Mission
“Cleaning up your own stuff… wounds or traumas or whatever stuff from your past… once again kind of that sense of alignment.”
Many outwardly successful men feel unfulfilled because of unresolved past issues. Tate explains that healing and reconciliation—especially with parents—open the door to a deeper sense of mission. This inner work leads to authentic, sustainable success.
Tip #6: Align with Purpose and Mission
“For me it was just a clear connection to my sense of mission and purpose… it took me decades to get there but it doesn’t have to for everybody.”
Purpose isn’t a one-time arrival point; it’s an ongoing alignment process. Tate shares how living into a mission creates ease, flow, and limitless possibilities. Listeners are encouraged to define their own mission as a compass for decision-making.
Tip #7: Take Daily Consistent Action
“It wasn’t because I paid for coaching… it was just taking that daily consistent action toward what I wanted.”
Jeremy’s story of building Starting Point Capital while holding a corporate job underscores the power of incremental effort. Success is rarely a single big leap—it’s the accumulation of small, deliberate steps. Reverse-engineering your goals makes the process clearer and less overwhelming.
Tip #8: Invest in Coaching or Mentorship to Accelerate Growth
“Hiring a coach accelerates the whole timeline… multifamily led to the podcast, led to conferences, led to coaching.”
While free resources exist, Tate advocates that paid coaching fast-tracks results. Mentors—whether digital or in person—can provide the roadmap you can’t see yourself. Surrounding yourself with people ahead of you shifts your mindset and opportunities.
Tip #9: Treat Life as a Team Sport
“Life is a team sport… whether you’re in real estate or teaching about masculinity… we all need a network.”
Both hosts stress that no one succeeds in isolation. Building a supportive network—peers, coaches, or even authors you follow—helps call you up instead of pulling you down. Collaboration accelerates mastery and keeps you grounded.
Tip #10: Strive for Life Mastery and “Ninja” Moments
“Everybody knows what it means to be a ninja at something… and that’s kind of where the juice is for me.”
Tate reframes his “new masculine motif” as life mastery—pursuing excellence in any area brings joy and self-discovery. Whether it’s skiing, playing an instrument, or leading a team, mastery gives access to new levels of fulfillment. Listeners are invited to identify and cultivate their own “ninja” zones.
